God Setteth the Solitary in Families

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Ever since the creation, there has been a wide variety of experiences in families around the globe. In some families there is love and acceptance, and in others there is hate and strife. In some homes there is one child, in some none, and in others two or more children.

Children have a special place in the heart of God. Consider a few Scripture verses to confirm this. “He shall feed his flock like a shepherd: he shall gather the lambs with his arm, and carry them in his bosom, and shall gently lead those that are with young” (isa 40:11). “Suffer the little children to come unto me, and forbid them not … And he took them up in his arms, put his hands upon them, and blessed them” (Mark 10:14b,16). And in John 21:15 Jesus tells peter, “if you truly love me, ‘Feed my lambs.’”

God desires that every child is loved and cared for by his parents. In the Bible, He gives direction to parents on how do this (Deu 6:7; Eph 6:4).

Mankind was created to bring glory to God. revelation 4:11, “Thou art worthy, O Lord, to receive glory and honour and power: for thou hast created all things, and for thy pleasure they are and were created.” All children are born into this world for that same purpose. A family unit living in peace and unity, which is God’s plan, is a beautiful sight in His eyes. But because of the nature of sinful man, problems arise that bring unrest and insecurity to children. These problems could arise from wars or poverty, as well as the sinful lifestyle of mankind.

But in spite of Satan’s attack on families, God’s love and tenderness is still shown to children. it is still His desire that none of them should perish.

This brings us to questions that often are asked by parents to whom God has not given any, or many, children. Why does God allow children to be born to parents who do not love and care for them? Or to parents who cannot financially afford to provide for them, and therefore need to find other homes for them? Why does God give one or only a few children to godly couples who desire to have more children and to raise them to serve the lord? These are questions for which we may never have answers. Because God is sovereign, He allows things to happen that we might not understand. There is another question that should be considered by parents to whom God has given few or no children. What is the ministry to which God has called them? raising a family for God is a ministry. But if there are no children to raise, then obviously God has a different calling for those couples. This calling could be helping others in the church or community, or serving in missions abroad, or perhaps fostering and/or adopting one of the little ones from troubled or broken

Consider with me the call to foster or adopt a needy or hurting child, or may we say, the “solitary one.” Remember, God’s desire for each child is that they would grow up learning to love and serve Him. And so at times God’s call comes to some couples to open their homes to one of these “solitary ones.” But before we open our homes to them, our hearts should be opened first. We should have a heart of love and compassion as well as a copy of the heart of God. This is important because sometimes these children come with hurts and fear in their tender hearts. As we have an understanding of the Father heart of God, we will be able to minister to these tender hearts.

An important aspect to remember is the change this brings to a home. A home that is not accustomed to having children in it is usually quiet and clean, and often has a freer schedule. And where there may already be some children in the home, this brings adjustments to their lives as well. This should not become a selfish reason to not foster or adopt children. Actually, it could be an opportunity for the parents to teach valuable lessons on sharing, getting along with others in the home, and having a caring heart toward those coming from troubled homes.

On the other hand, we need to remember that God does not call everyone to this ministry. We need to be honest with our motives and abilities. it is also appropriate to seek counsel from the brotherhood.

Psalm 68:6, “God setteth the solitary in families.”

Maybe your family will be one of those that God chooses for this ministry. Allowing God to place a solitary one in a home brings rewards that may be experienced already in this life. But most assuredly there will be eternal rewards, knowing that one of God’s precious little ones had the opportunity to grow up in a godly environment and to be taught in the ways of the Lord.

~ Foxworth, MS
April 2013