Mother's Blooming in Life's Timeline.......
with young children/up to the teenage years
Blooming gives the idea of producing something beautiful- which we want to produce a joyful, thankful mother
It's something that takes time- not over night ( my amaryllis is about the fastest plant to bloom but it still takes about 6 wks.)
Psalm 113:9 He maketh the barren woman to keep house, and to be a joyful mother of children. Praise ye the Lord.
As mothers this is what we're striving for- to be a person who is finding joy in what she is doing and can be thankful even in unpleasant situations.
Our homes are a haven from the world and as mothers we set the stage for what kind of haven this is
-tense and uptight or relaxed, comfortable atmosphere-
An eight-year old boy explained what a mother is: “ A mother is a person who takes care of her children, and gets their meals, and if she is not there when you get home from school, you wouldn’t know how to get your meals, and you wouldn’t feel like eating them anyway.”
Ways we be this:
* Psalm 16:11 Thou wilt shew me the path of life: in thy presence is fulness of joy; at thy right hand there are pleasures for evermore.
*Psalm 73:28 But it is good for me to draw near to God: I have put my trust in the Lord God, that I may declare all thy works.
Dedicated to God- find time- (Time with God will not be demanded of you like making supper is; its more like more like washing windows- no one will demand you do it but your outlook on life keeps getting worse if you neglect it too long!)
* - Psalm 127:3 Lo, children are an heritage of the Lord: and the fruit of the womb is his reward. Our children are a gift -look at them as that - not a bother to be pushed away.
* Titus 2:5 To be discreet, (self- controlled) chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
Understand your calling as a keeper at home- not just a stay at home mother that makes sure there is food on the table, clothes to wear, and a decently clean house. It includes all these but you can do all these and still not be a true keeper. A keeper is a someone who's job is to guard/ take care of something or someone valuable. Our homes are valuable.....Our children are valuable!
Mark 10 :13-16 about Jesus blessing the children. He said " Of such is the kingdom of God" by taking care of and training our childen is one way to "lay up treasures in Heaven"
*Gal. 5:13 last part "By love , serve one another" we're called to be servants- accept it and be willing to sacrifice
- the story of Mary and Martha. Martha was cumbered with much serving.... doesn't appear like a joyful woman. Mary was worshiping ( sacrifice could be a form of that)
-first to your family.....time,
*give up personal hobbies/ agenda- keep a someday list
*shopping trips- how often do we really need to go??
- to others - your work does not have to be all done to do something for someone else-
?maybe it shouldn't be- your children need the example of giving?
*Life isn't fair- We can't compare ourselves with others.... . "Whatsoever state I'm in therewith to be content"---learn contentment (mute statuses if need be, or get rid of Pinterest)
*live on a schedule- but be flexible
possibly keep lists or make schedules
*Don't major in minor things- especially if it frustrates others
*Take life as your children....
-one day at a time, don't worry - but as mothers we do need to think ahead- it will help diminish stressful situations if your prepared for last minute interruptions
-find simple pleasures..."It's the small everyday happenings that make life so spectacular" - (listen to your children play, you will hear some very unique perspective on life!)
We all know we need to control our emotions but we have to admit that outward circumstances make it easier or harder.
joyful mother= contented children= contended , joyful mother
grouchy mother= grouchy children= struggling, moody mother
"Children need love , especially when they don't deserve it"
........and when you feel the least like giving it.
Tip: Your struggling and just need time alone... offer to do the dishes. It will almost instantly make happy children and you'll get your alone time
Some things to teach our children to make it easier-
* NO whining or complaining "Don't complain unless your willing to do someting about it"
*We are here to help each other- no "little princess" "God gave us two hands- one to help yourself and one to help others" - your dominant hand should be the helping one.
* Life isn't fair- accept it!
*Clean up after yourself-everybody is in a better mood when things are cleaned up and you know where to find things but even this has limits -"A creative mess is better than idle tidiness"
Enjoy the stage you're in- don't constantly be looking with longing eyes to the next one!
What kind of mother you bloom into depends mostly on your attitude-
a wilted, unattractive bloom or
a beautiful, attractive one that encourages your children and others to keep striving for the right.